The breakup of an important relationship is the most traumatic of human experiences and we have all suffered through at least one I am sure. In many ways we can more easily cope with the death of a loved one. Although we don’t understand death, at least we understand its finality.
With the breakup of a relationship, days and weeks of lingering and haunting “ifs” often follow. The pain can penetrate every fiber of our being. In the days following the breakup we think of little else than the one we loved and trusted, the one we had so much invested in.
Everywhere we go we are reminded of them a face in a crowd, the flash of a familiar shirt, a distant voice, a song. In an effort to get away from things we may take a trip, only to find that in some way it reminds us of a special place we visited with our loved one.
“Each day frequently presents the chore of merely placing one foot in front of the other. Survival seems to be a word that encapsulates the experience. Discover what you can do to move from surviving to coping to managing and eventually thriving.”
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Introduce yourself, you don't have to use your name, tell us your story, we all have them, so you can compare stories! Maybe discuss what issues you are dealing with at the moment, are you thinking of taking your ex partner back, are you trying to deal with an Affair or Infidelity or maybe just want to chat to other people in the same situation as you.
- 3 months, 1 week ago
Have you lost friends since you have separated? Do your “joint” friends need to choose sides? Are there issues with the ex in-laws, are you unsure of what sort of relationship you should have with your ex, sometimes it is hard to let go especially if you have been together for a long time. Has the relationship with your children changed? Or maybe you are ready to start dating again? Share you experiences and advice in this section.
- 1 year, 3 months ago
Are you dealing with a harassing ex-spouse, does he/she phone you or txt you constantly, do you have a protection order in place? How do you deal with your ex when he/she starts dating again? What arrangements do you have in place for dropping or picking kids up from school? Unfortunately there is no getting around dealing with ex spouses especially if you have children. Use this section to help others out or get answers yourself.
- 6 years, 1 month ago
Each individual feels different at the end of a relationship. The person left, the person doing the leaving, the mutual separation, each person will feel it differently. Within this section you can discuss topics such as, Relief from a abusive relationship or a controlling partner, how to deal with Loneliness or Emptiness, maybe you are feeling unloved, does the Sadness and Grief feel like it is too much to handle?
- 6 years, 1 month ago
Getting back into life after divorce can seem like an overwhelming task. Are you trying to make sense of your current situation? Are you trying to find direction in your life? Are you unsure what to do next? Do you feel like you are walking in the fog. At the beginning it is “survival mode” and keeping your routine going. In this section you can talk about how you look after yourself and your health, discuss with others how you get the motivation to just get through each day, maybe give each other ideas on how you cope or survive.
- 6 years, 1 month ago
The reality of divorce is that you are separated from your children for periods of time, and they are separated from you. In this section you can discuss decisions you are having to make in regards to holidays, moving, changing schools, money, issues with custody or co –parenting. What impact is your separation having on the kids, are they coping? Are you having trouble bonding with your children, does your child not want to go and live/stay with mum or dad?
- 7 months, 4 weeks ago
One of the most important tasks you need to get sorted quickly is the finances and how you go about financially supporting yourself on your own, esp if you have children. In this section you can talk with others about any money matters, like what benefit are you entitled to, how do you apply for it, who pays child support, how much does your spouse have to pay, who pays the mortgage or rent, do you need to get a job and who pays for child support?
- 4 months, 1 week ago
I’ve have had the privilege of owning Elite6 Business Networking for three and a half years. Over this time we have built a strong foundation of members who truly understand the value of having a business family, who care about each other, who can offer support and give advice to each other and build strong relationships in the process.
I should have been working, however I decided to go for walk through Northlands Shopping Centre. I saw this beautiful, stylish elderly lady standing in the middle of the arcade with a walking stick. I didn't ask, but I think she would have been in her mid 80’s. We made eye contact - she signalled for me to come over, so I did.
After separation followed by the inevitable divorce, at some point you have to realise that life must go on, and so must you! It’s easy to fall into the trap of denial or resentment and become paralyzed by inaction.